Have you ever really listened to the type of language you’re using? It will vary from day to day, but if you pay attention to it, you’ll most likely realize that it follows a pattern. Once you see this, you’ll be able to understand the importance of using positive words.
Many of us regularly speak negatively without even being aware of it. For example, “the weather’s dreadful today”, or “I’m just not in the mood for this”, or even “things just couldn’t get any worse for me”. Get the picture?
None of us want to have this kind of attitude, do we? Mostly no, but there are some who use being negative to “prove” that life has dealt them a bad deal. I call it the oh woe is me syndrome. It’s not a good trait to have, but boy will it work for you, piling on more of the bad stuff, showing the world how hard done by you are.
Using the Negative Approach
If a person is feeling bad about them self, there is normally an underlying reason behind it. Bad life experience caused by someone else or unfortunate events can easily result in feeling a lack of self-worth. It becomes a vicious circle, leading to a subconscious belief that you’re no good or bad things always happen to you.
When you believe this, using negative language about yourself and the world around you, becomes natural. You’re taking a view from a perspective backed up by your beliefs. This is your world, so your language reflects it.
In this situation, your subconscious will do it’s best to maintain it for you. Remember, the subconscious doesn’t discriminate between good or bad, positive or negative, it just gets on with helping to make your beliefs come into being. You believe it’s a crap world, that’s what will be delivered to you.
The Negative Path is a Dangerous One
Once you’re on that path of negativity, it gets comfortable to be on. Not because it’s nice or you like it, but because it confirms your beliefs. It’s comforting when you feel you understand and are aligned with your world, even if it’s a bad one!
We all know at least one person who we try to avoid at all costs because when you see them and politely ask how they are, you’re stuck for an hour listening to their woes. It’s sad, because this approach to life brings more of the same and that person can say, “See, I told you so. I only get bad luck, life sucks for me.”
Truth is, it isn’t all bad for them, it’s just that they’re too busy concentrating on the bad things in their life, they overlook the good things. It also has to be said that acknowledging the good things would blow their beliefs out of the water.
Steps to Positivity Using Positive Words
It’s difficult to generalize on how to change from being negative to positive because we’re all different and there isn’t a one size fits all solution. The trick is to find ways to think positive. First you should be aware of your thoughts as these will determine the words you use. Negative words reaffirm the thoughts, so thinking before speaking is a good idea.
Watch You Language
You have the ability to use positive language, so do so. Even when you’re having negative thoughts, make sure you’re using positive words. It isn’t easy, but words are the building blocks of our language and we use our language to express and communicate our feelings.
Think before you speak, that brief moment will give you a chance to replace negative words with positive ones. If something is wrong or you’re not feeling great, don’t deny the negative but think around or beyond it. The simplest change can make a big difference. For example, if you’re tired, rather than saying you’re worn out, say you’re going to have a rest.
Find positive Things
However many bad things you can find in your life, there must also be many good things. It might help to write them down as you think of them. When you’re negatively focused, it’s easy to forget the bright side, so get it down on paper.
A few years ago, when I was laid off from a job of many years that I loved, rather than feel bad about it, I concentrated on the opportunities that lay ahead. I got off my backside and taught myself new skills. There are always positives to be found among the negatives, seek them out and talk about them.
Positive Language Examples
It’s important you put your mind to finding your own positive language examples because it exercises you mind towards that way of thinking and speaking. It’s important using positive words and the video below has some great examples to get you started.