Why are Feelings Important? (DO THEY REALLY MATTER?)

Why are Feelings Important?

They are something we all have even though some try to deny them, but they are real, so why are feelings important? Because they exist within us, we can learn how to use them to help us get through life. That may seem a strange thing to say, but it really isn’t.

It’s important not to mix up feelings with emotions because they are different. Yes, they are closely linked but are not the same thing. Emotions are built into us, they are reactions from within our brain, which is common to all of us. That’s to say, there are a set number of emotions that all human beings experience, they are a part of our makeup.

Feelings on the other hand, are reactions to emotions and we all experience them differently. For example, two people may each come face to face with a mugger. It’s likely they’d both experience the emotion of fear although each of them might not have the same feelings as a result. One might feel that the mugger should be sent to prison for a long time, whereas the other may feel the mugger needs help in order to set them onto the right path. This is why feeling are important – they are a part of defining us.

 

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The Purpose of Feelings

 

Have you ever stopped whatever you’re doing and asked yourself how you are feeling? It can be a real eye opener and it’s something most people rarely do. Feelings tell you much more than just how you are feeling, they’re attached to what you’re thinking and what you believe. Once you realise this, it opens up a whole new guidance system to you.

Our mind is bombarded thousands of messages every day. In this article, it says that experts believed that in 2011 Americans took in five times as much information than they did in 1986. During our leisure time (excluding work time), we process 100,000 words a day. We have so much information going into our mind all the time that we miss most of it, but it still goes in. We often go about our day without thinking what our thoughts are.

If you stop to think about how you’re feeling, you’ll be able to understand what you’ve been thinking. You might not have been paying attention to the thoughts recently going through your mind, but they will have created feelings. Know how you are feeling and you can work out if your thoughts have been positive or negative. You’ll immediately know if your thoughts are working for or against you.

 

Importance of Identifying Feelings

 

Years ago, when I was at the beginning of my career and trying really hard to advance it, I accepted a job offer to go and work in Denmark. I can still vividly remember the feelings I had about doing it, something didn’t feel right. I convinced myself that feeling this way about an unknown new adventure and upheaval in my life was natural, so off I went.

The job and money were good, but it wasn’t making me feel good. I really struggled because I tried to make myself believe that I should give it time and maybe I’d get to like it. Then, after about three weeks I couldn’t ignore the bad feelings anymore, so gave a week’s notice. I knew from the bad feelings this job gave me, that it wasn’t right for me. The moment I decided to quit, I began to experience good feelings.

I returned home to no job but still felt good about the decision I’d made. It wasn’t long after this that I saw an advert for what was to become one of the most important and enjoyable jobs of my career. There is no doubt in my mind that had I still been working in Denmark I wouldn’t have seen this job advert and my career would be completely different. This is not just about gut instinct, it’s about paying attention to how you are feeling. My thoughts about being in a foreign country doing a job I didn’t care for, gave me bad feelings. By paying attention to these feelings, I was able to see that my thoughts were not going to align me with bringing about the career I really wanted, so I took action.

 

Why are Feelings Important for Change?

 

Gut feelings such as I talked about above, are important but it’s knowing how to interpret them that’s the key. If you’re working, for example, on attracting more money into your life, how can your feelings help? I’ve always believed that you can’t just imagine cash flowing to you and it’ll happen. There are steps you must take. Affirmations, visualisation, meditation or contemplation are all good tools to put you in the right frame of mind to take action. Attaching feeling to them of having achieved the goal, will make them more powerful, but what if it doesn’t seem to work?

Take stock of how you are feeling. Are your feelings connected to wanting more money or that you don’t have it yet? If so, it’s likely that they’re not good feelings. By thinking about wanting or not having, you’re sending instructions to your subconscious to deliver more of the same. It goes about delivering what you’re thinking about, so if your feelings are based on not having, expect more of that. By worrying (feeling) about how you’re going to get more money, you’re highlighting the lack of it. As a result, that’s what you’ll get more of.

By changing your thoughts to having already gained more money, it will also change how you feel. These positive feelings will alter your state of mind to an abundance mindset, which in turn, will make you behave differently and take this right kind of actions to achieve the goal. How you are feeling is your internal guidance system. They let you know whether your thoughts and beliefs are aligned with what you want. If you’ve never asked yourself, why are feelings important, it’s something you should really think about. If you understand how you’re feeling, it’ll be easier to understand yourself.