Are you chasing your dreams? Well, you may be surprised to hear that it’s not such a good idea. Sure, we should all have dreams of things we want to achieve or receive, but it’s the chasing that might cause the problem. Think about a dog who chases its tail, what happens? That’s right, it never quite manages to catch it.
Here’s the truth – you’ll hardly ever win when you’re chasing. A dream should be something you ultimately want to reach. No matter how big or small, it should be something you really, really want and you must believe it’s possible. More than that, you must believe it’s not only possible, but you will achieve it.
You create your dreams and you achieve them, but you don’t chase them. If you start chasing, it’s most likely you’ll be like the dog chasing its tail, it becomes about the chase rather than achieving. The dream will always be out there just in front of you and you’ll never quite manage to reach out and grab it. That’s the game you play when you chase, it’s both the game and the result. So, if you don’t chase, then what should you do?
Forget Chasing Your Dreams
I’m sure you know that the term “chasing your dreams” is what’s commonly used to describe achieving your goals. There’s a big difference between “achieving” and “chasing” and that’s why the latter should be used carefully. We know that words have power, so it’s important to use the correct ones, especially when we’re communicating with our subconscious. It takes whatever you send it, literally and strives to bring it about.
What if one of your dreams is to become more confident? You can’t chase getting confident, because you must first build it, and you’ll never build it if you’re trying to chase after it. Confidence comes from within you, it’s something that grows over time from the steps and different actions you take. You can’t just go and chase after it, hoping to catch it, because you won’t. Confidence is an inner feeling that you know you’re comfortable dealing with a situation or something.
You’re the creator of that inner feeling, it comes from gaining experience, studying etc. Of course, you get outside help from others who teach or encourage you, but it’s you who creates it. It’s the same for most things, to get to where you want to be, you take control, make the changes that need to be made and create what it is you want. Maybe that’s over simplifying things, but the point is, that “create” and “achieve” are very different to “chasing”.
What are Your Dreams?
Do you know what you’d like to achieve, why you believe you’re here? What is your purpose? Whether we think about it or not, we all have one. Take some time to work it out, so you’re absolutely clear on your purpose. From this, come your goals or dreams. They may shift or change as you journey through life, but at least you’re starting with a clear path that has a destination. As the old saying goes, if you don’t know where you’re going, you won’t know when you’ve arrived.
What if you want more cash? It’s probably the most popular dream there is, but why? If you need it because you’ve fallen into debt or what you pay out is more than comes in, that’s where you should look. Is it possible you’ve been chasing money rather than finding ways to allow it to flow or earn it? Chasing money is usually prompted from a belief of scarcity. This normally takes the form of believing there’s not enough of it in the world to go around, so you have to chase after it before someone else beats you to it.
Shift your focus or dream from chasing after money, to what it is that will bring in money. This might be working harder at your job, working hard for a promotion or even setting up a new business. You’re creating a vibration on a cause rather than the effect. You’re no longer chasing, you are creating. The money will flow because of your efforts to do something rather than wildly trying to grab at it. You’ve probably heard the saying: Chase your passion and the money will come but chase the money and you may never find your passion.
Make it Your Dream
Businessman, Farrah Gray famously said, “Build your own dreams or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” Note: he said build rather than chase. While this is aimed at the business world, it’s also true for all areas of life. So many people live their lives through the success of others. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that, if it genuinely makes you happy, but for most, it’s an excuse. An excuse for not getting off their butt and making their own mark in life.
Our time here is so short and unfortunately most people don’t really understand that until it’s too late. Well let me tell you, it’s never too late. Once you realize your passion or find your own dream, no matter how old you are, if you don’t start to create it, then yes, it’s too late for you. It doesn’t have to be that way though, start working on creating a healthy mindset. It’s beliefs that limit you, not your age.
You might fear making changes because it’ll change your world. But will it make it worse? I’ll bet you can look back on times in the past when you faced change and were fearful of it, but now you’re glad of it. These fears can become a pattern for you and end up with you fearing the fear, rather than the actual situation. Visualize embracing the change and see the positive outcome it will have. This is about creating your own dreams and not following those of others. You become more in control of yourself, your confidence increases and it becomes easier to reach your dream. That’s not chasing your dreams, it’s creating them.