I’m sure that each of us wants success in some way or other. Perhaps that’s the reason you’re reading this article in the hope of finding an answer? But is there an answer and if so, what’s the best way to get success in life? Is there a “magical” formula to follow that guarantees we achieve what we deem as successful?
There’s nothing magical about success, although when you achieve it, you may feel magical in yourself. And so you should, because achieving what you want or reaching a goal is really something. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is, being successful in life is worth celebrating and is right to feel good about. There’s even a website – success.com dedicated to it.
Before deciding what, you want your success to be, it’s best to define what it is. The dictionary definition is that it’s the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. That’s pretty straightforward and puts no bounds on it. In other words, being successful is measured by achieving the aim or goal you set, no matter how big or small, how relevant to others or even compared to others. It’s often seen as a result of a competitive race or outcome, but it doesn’t need to be. Defining it by measuring against others isn’t the only way to do it.
What Makes You Successful?
In most work situations we get measured against agreed targets and our work colleagues. It’s an easy way to track our performance. A business, quite rightly, wants to get the best out of its employees, so it’s understandable why these measurements take place. Unfortunately, in many cases appraisals are a formality of going through the motions just to put something on file to fulfil legal obligations. It might not be the intention, but that’s what it often turns out to be.
As much as I hated doing and receiving appraisals when I was in the corporate world, I’m not knocking them. From experience I do know, however, how much employees and managers consider them to be a pain in the butt. There’s often a lot of BS involved. It’s completely different in our own world though. Although we may have responsibilities to others, we can decide on the level of our own success. Unfortunately, we’re often too hard on ourselves by focusing on where we haven’t been successful (yet), rather than acknowledging where we have.
We set our own bar but often overlook the many smaller successes that are all a part of the ultimate success we’re aiming for. It’s very important to remember that we can decide how successful we are. Others may have an opinion, but our own acknowledgement should be far more important. It’s a shame that we often regard the opinion of others about us, above our own. Here’s a key to success in life – how we see, judge and rate our self is usually by comparing to others rather than to our self. Your degree of success should not be determined by what others may have achieved, but by what you have.
How to Achieve Success in Life
It may sound a bit obvious, but the best way to get success in life begins with knowing exactly what you want to achieve. A lot of us have an idea of what it is but haven’t worked out precisely what it is. If you don’t have an exact and clear vision, how can you visualise it? You must be able to see it and believe it is achievable. Once it’s crystal clear, write it down so you can see it in print every day and make a commitment to it. Commitment is a big word, it’s a promise to yourself that you’re going to see this through without exception. There may be tweaks, twists, turns and a few failures along the way, but despite these you will stay committed to it.
Think of it like running through a long dark tunnel. All you want to do is get to the other end, which you can see in the far distance. You might trip over or bump into a few things you can’t see as you run in the dark, but you keep your eye on that light at the far end of the tunnel. As you keep that focus, slowly but surely the light gets closer and closer. It gets harder to keep going as you get more tired and you know it would be easier to turn around and walk slowly back to the start without any problem. What do you do? If you have real commitment, you’ll know what to do.
At the start of the journey find out and learn everything you need to. If you want to be a world class singer, take singing lessons. Get to know other singers, go to the places they go, do whatever you need to do so the world of singing becomes a part of who you are. This is real commitment. By doing these things and using affirmations for success, you change your paradigm, as explained by the great Bob Proctor. You form a new habit into the subconscious, which becomes the new norm, but you must always keep a check on it.
It’s Not all Plain Sailing
There will, of course, be setbacks, things won’t always go the way you want them to. That’s a part of life, but don’t always view it as a bad thing. Setbacks can provide valuable lessons and even open our mind to something we’d not thought of. Henry Ford failed in business leaving him broke five times before making a success of his motor company. Even Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard and failed with his first business venture. Napoleon Hill said: “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
Then there are our errors! Yes, but we can learn from mistakes. No one likes making them but we all do so now and again. They can provide us with valuable lessons about where we’ve gone wrong or where we haven’t gone right. The most successful people in the world have probably made more mistakes than most of us and made more of them, than the successes they’ve had. It comes down to the way you view them, they will either hold you back through guilt and regret or will provide a springboard from the insights the mistake has given you.
Disappointments can also be a stumbling block or provide a helpful determination to try again. Something not turning out how you expected, not getting that job interview or even getting dumped by your partner are examples. Under normal circumstances, they all result in a disappointment, but it really does depend on how you look at it. If you can look beyond the disappointment, it’s likely you’ll learn something valuable.
What’s the Best Way to Get Success in Life?
Chances are, you already have it to some degree. Not necessarily how you want it to be, but at least you’re on your way to it. All of us have the potential to achieve something, it can shape our destiny. It’s ours and no one else’s. Success is also a duty for us to reach. The reason being, our personal success effects the world around us and ultimately, the universe. It helps other people too and this makes it our duty to be successful. Where we have success, in any part of our life, it directly effects other people, which makes it a responsibility for us.
Work out what success means to you and put your own definition on it. You might want to listen to others, but don’t let them tell you what your success should be, that’s up to you. Once you reach your goal you’ll probably find another one opens up to you. Our life continually expands, our job is never done, there is always something more for us to strive for.
The best way to get success in life is to understand that you cannot fail. If you’ve set the goal and you reach it, that’s great. If you don’t quite get there, it isn’t the end of the world, but it is an experience and learning curve. That, in itself is part of being successful in life.