We are who we are, and we are where we are, but who is responsible for this? That’s probably easy to state if the answer is a positive one and most likely not so easy if it’s a negative one. Who decides? And who is responsible for taking responsibility?
So many questions that can be easily answered if we are prepared to accept responsibility for them. Albert Einstein said: “Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”
That makes it pretty clear, as did US businessman Jim Rohn, who said: “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”
Perhaps it was best described by the ancient Greek playwright Sophocles, who said: “It is a painful thing to look at your own trouble and know that you yourself and no one else has made it.” There is a theme here, that there is only one person who should be responsible. Yes, take responsibility for yourself.
There are things in life that we know are down to us and some things we think aren’t. There is much that you have no direct control over, so why should you take responsibility for yourself? There is a reason why you should.
How have you reached this point in time and your life? You have chosen your path. Yes, there have been things outside your control that have happened, but the path you are on, is the one you stepped on to, you chose it. That’s being responsible! Understand, that you are the creator of your destiny.
Circumstances will have an influence, but the final decision is yours. If you find this difficult to accept as the reality, then perhaps you’d rather blame someone else? In other words, you don’t want to take the responsibility. Once you pass over taking responsibility, you also give away control.
Responsibility vs Fault
People often associate these two words with each other and they couldn’t be more wrong to do so. When the word “fault” is used, it’s almost impossible for it to be in a positive way. Using “responsibility” on the other hand, can be the opposite.
Having responsibility isn’t a bad thing, it may not be desirable, but that doesn’t make it bad. If you make a mistake, then yes, it’s probably your fault. You’re responsible for that mistake, but it isn’t the responsibility that’s the problem, it’s the actual mistake.
Now, if you take the responsibility for making the mistake, maybe something can be done about it to sort it out. Taking responsibility puts you in control to do something positive. Try to see responsibility as having a duty to deal with or be accountable for something. Using it to apportion blame or being at fault isn’t helpful.
Taking Responsibility Brings Freedom
If you take responsibility for yourself and what happens to you, it gives you the freedom of choice. That means having control over your life and what happens within it. You can create it to be what you want it to be. That’s the importance of being responsible.
When things don’t go so well you have the power to change it. You are responsible for changing your thoughts, actions and behaviours to implement change. That might sound scary, but at least you’re in the driving seat.
What you send out in terms of vibration – your thoughts and emotions, will affect everything around you. You’ll attract the same vibrations back to you. For example, if you present a positive, successful and inspirational persona, you’ll find those around you will tend to be similar types. Negative people will gradually be less a part of your life.
Your thoughts are an energy that will create your reality. You can control your thoughts, so it must follow that your reality is created by you. Where you are and what you’re doing right now is down to you. If you can’t accept that, it’s difficult to see how you can ever be free.
Why is Responsibility Important?
Taking personal responsibility for your life is a big thing. It often means having to stop blaming others or forgiving them for past actions. They may have caused the outcomes, but if you take responsibility, you control your life.
You can let outside influences direct your thoughts and feelings, but it’s you who’s allowing it. The only way to stop it, is to take control yourself. That means accepting you can do something about it and, are therefore responsible.
Here’s a description of self-responsibility from the Western Michigan University which sets it out well. Remember, thoughts become things, so you create your own reality. No one else can do that because only you can think your own thoughts. By accepting that you are taking responsibility for yourself and are in control.