Beliefs About Self (Are Self-Beliefs Harming You?)

Beliefs About Self

If you do a search on Google for beliefs about self you get millions of results. It’s very interesting that people want to know more about themselves by searching the internet to find the answer. Perhaps this article is one of those millions that attempt to give the answer when really, it’s actually staring back at you when you look into the mirror.

Sometimes, when people talk about beliefs they are referring to religious beliefs. These have a huge impact on the lives of many and they can cause both happiness and sadness. Any belief you hold about yourself has most likely been created from an outside influence rather than by you.

It’s important to remember that what we believe is mostly learned and that includes what we believe about ourselves. The Indian Journal of Psychiatry explained in its report, The Biochemistry of Belief, that they are like internal commands to the brain how to interpret what is happening when we believe something is true.

The report also says that in the absence of beliefs, then people feel disempowered. I interpret this as saying, if we have a belief about something, we can understand it, but without it, we may struggle. Beliefs give us clarity and comfort, but what if these “beliefs about self” are not good ones?


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Developing Our Beliefs


We know that the majority of our beliefs are developed from early outside influences when we weren’t yet able to form our own. Unfortunately, we pick up both positive and negative beliefs about our world and our self.

Once a belief is rooted within us, as we get older and begin to develop, it will often get reinforced by our own thoughts. What has been planted in our mind, we see as reality and it can be difficult, although not impossible to change.

It’s a matter of reprogramming your subconscious that can change inner beliefs, but first you must be able to see what needs changing. That can be difficult when a belief is a part of your core. When someone has a differing view to you, it’s easy to dismiss them as being wrong. They do the same to you, so who is right and who is wrong?


How Beliefs Work


Our feelings let us know how we are thinking. If our thoughts are positive or happy, we feel good. When they are negative or sad, they make us feel bad. Yes, how we feel is an indicator of what we are thinking about and our thoughts are influenced by our beliefs.

In an ideal world we’d always think positively to stay happy, but unfortunately our beliefs of self, or self-beliefs often don’t work that way. Every belief we have within us is constantly affecting our life. What we believe, will have an influence on what happens to us.

You may own a belief although it might not have been developed by you. That is to say, you may have grown up believing something about yourself which isn’t true. I remember when I was very young, one of my school reports said that I had difficulty kicking a ball in games. Even now, after all these years, I still have a difficulty kicking a ball!

I can still see those words written on the report in my mind, it believes them to be true, and so they are. Kicking a ball isn’t (and never was) important to me, but if it was, I’d be working to change that belief which was installed by the written words of a school teacher from many years ago.

As we mature, we begin to see things differently through having more life experience. We become more balanced and we may question some of our beliefs. In most cases that’s a healthy thing to do, but changing a belief is much more than thinking about it in our conscious mind. Our subconscious mind must be instructed to change, and that takes some work.


Using Beliefs About Self to Work in Our Favour


It’s very important to understand that you must have beliefs that support what you want or your goals. If I’d wanted to be a successful footballer, it would be no good having the belief that I struggle to kick a ball.

For someone who wants to be wealthy, it will never happen if their beliefs are of lack or scarcity and those who think negatively will struggle to be successful. You create your own destiny and it’s your beliefs which fuel this.

The beliefs you have about yourself must support your goals. If they don’t, then you need to change one or other of them. It’s easy to say that you can’t kick a ball, so you’ve given up your dream of being a footballer. Then why can’t it be easy to say that you dream of being a footballer, so you’re going to do everything you can to become great at kicking a ball?

When you take the second option, you start a process of change. To change a belief will take time, but deciding to do so is a powerful step, if you have commitment. Of course, it will take an amount of effort and determination. That goes without saying, but it’s a matter of keeping your focus on the end result – the goal!


Changing Self-Beliefs


You’ll probably only want to change what doesn’t work in your favour and it can be hard to admit those beliefs are wrong. Start out by identifying as many positive things about yourself that you believe. It’s very important to recognise these, because contemplating them will help to lift your self-image.

Listen to the way you talk as it can help to pinpoint false beliefs you have about yourself. If, for example, you say that you never seem to have any money, look for the reason why.

Perhaps you have a belief that you’re no good at holding on to your money, when you have it, you have to spend it. That might come from feeling unworthy and that’s the root belief that needs to be changed. It might not only affect your spending habits, feeling unworthy can affect other areas of your life.

When you’ve worked out the root cause/belief, you should then try to identify where it came from. Was it a bad parent, or teacher? If you can work it out, it’s easier to see it as a false belief. Also, be aware of how the false belief makes you feel. Remember, your thoughts determine how you feel and if you can work on changing your thoughts, you can begin changing the belief behind it.


Making the Change


By doing the work described above, you’ll know what you want to change, so now comes the hard but fun bit! You must allow yourself time because it’s unlikely to change overnight. One of the most important things is to feel how it feels when you’ve changed the beliefs about self. How you’ll feel when your self-beliefs are good ones.

This is kind of reverse engineering because you’re getting a feeling from the future created by a thought about something that hasn’t happened yet. The result is that you think and feel about it as if it’s already happened.

Repeating this process for about 20 minutes a day (or how ever long you feel it should be) will slowly begin to impress upon your subconscious mind. Eventually, it will accept it as reality and then, it will be reality. It takes time and consistent working at it, but it’s the repetition that’s the key to change. Go on, type beliefs about self into Google and you’ll see you already know the answer.